The mom guilt I feel sometimes is overwhelming. There is so much pressure to juggle work and kids perfectly and so much more to stay home full time with your children. Trying to decide which to do is intense and layers on all that guilt.
When I chose to continue working after having my oldest I wouldn't have labelled it a choice really because I HAD to work to pay the bills. But, if I had said I wouldn't have gone back to work if not required on a monetary basis then I would have been lying. The truth is I am just not the type of person who thrives on being home all the time with my kids.
This doesn't mean I don't love my kids and value the time I get to spend with me, because I totally do! My girls are my world, but in order to feel fulfilled I need the opportunity to work within a career. And if you think this makes me less of a mother then by george are you wrong! I think this can be another amazing example of how to mother while working and still mother well. I don't have to be a stay at home mom to be a good mom and vice versa--you don't have to work outside the home to be a good mom. We are all good moms in our own right, mostly because we love our kids and do what we think is right and best for them.
For us, doing what is best for our girls means I go to work every day, and that's perfectly fine no matter what anyone says or thinks. All the love in our home and lives can attest to that.
When I chose to continue working after having my oldest I wouldn't have labelled it a choice really because I HAD to work to pay the bills. But, if I had said I wouldn't have gone back to work if not required on a monetary basis then I would have been lying. The truth is I am just not the type of person who thrives on being home all the time with my kids.
This doesn't mean I don't love my kids and value the time I get to spend with me, because I totally do! My girls are my world, but in order to feel fulfilled I need the opportunity to work within a career. And if you think this makes me less of a mother then by george are you wrong! I think this can be another amazing example of how to mother while working and still mother well. I don't have to be a stay at home mom to be a good mom and vice versa--you don't have to work outside the home to be a good mom. We are all good moms in our own right, mostly because we love our kids and do what we think is right and best for them.
For us, doing what is best for our girls means I go to work every day, and that's perfectly fine no matter what anyone says or thinks. All the love in our home and lives can attest to that.
Great words from clearly a great mom!
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